Dowry has been illegal in India since 1961. The Catholic Church in Kerala has spoken against it repeatedly and plainly. And yet it persists, renamed — as "gifts", as "what we are giving our daughter", as gold that everyone understands to be expected.
The Kerala Catholic Bishops' Council has condemned the practice for decades, and individual dioceses have gone further, with pastoral letters and in some cases parish-level pledges against demanding or giving dowry. The reasoning is not merely legal. A marriage is a covenant between two baptised persons; a transaction attached to it makes the bride a party to a price.
Honesty helps here. Dowry survives because it is rarely demanded outright. It survives in the question about what the girl's family will "do for them", in the assumption that a groom abroad is worth more, and in the silence of families who dislike it but will not be the first to refuse.
It also survives because gold in Kerala genuinely is a form of security a family gives a daughter. The line between a gift to her and a payment to his family is one that gets deliberately blurred.
The practice ends when the receiving side refuses. A groom who tells his own parents that nothing is to be asked for has done more than any campaign. It is, in the plainest sense, the Christian position.
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